Own How You Look
Being in your 30s, you have probably navigated most of what life can throw at you by now. That means you also have a lot of experience. However, just like women, men can also get down about how they look, and getting older affects men just as much as women. Feeling the pressure, you might want to make changes and consider treatments such as hair restoration, fat removal, and even dermal fillers. Whatever you need, embrace your personal style and look!
Healthy Confidence Boosters for Men
The American Psychological Association found that 60% of men over 30 who exercised regularly feel much more confident about themselves and their relationships. However, there are also knock-on effects that any man would welcome that can provide a better quality of life:
- Men who exercise report that they have much more energy for work and social activities.
- Physical activity helps alleviate stress and vastly reduces anxiety and its effects.
- Men feel more self-worth through physique, self-image, and improved sexual health.
Master a New Skill
Have you mastered anything yet? Watching TV doesn’t count! Mastering a skill can be a major boost to confidence. When you know you can do something well, it is a powerful driver of confidence as it proves something to yourself and to others. Of course, people will also be drawn to you if you are excellent at something. Whether it’s playing a musical instrument, cooking, or even something related to work, the self-assurance from a skill is a major boost.
Set Small and Achievable Goals
You can go through life being far too hard on yourself. Time after time, you feel like you are failing. But what if you are setting the bar too high? Most men want to achieve things that are almost impossible, or they aren’t using the right path. Primary goals in life are admirable, but like a route to a destination, there are stops, turns, and things necessary for the journey. So, break down larger goals into smaller achievable ones that will help you get there eventually.
Mindfulness Confidence Boosters for Men
A Grammarly survey of professionals found that 84% of them believe strong communication skills are essential in the workplace. Communicating with others can have a significant impact on confidence and should be used as part of a routine for maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
Practice active listening
Waiting for your turn to speak appears rude if someone notices it because it means you aren’t respecting what others say. Instead, wait to talk and listen to what others have to say.
Speak with intention
Before blurting anything out, think about what you say. This helps you come off professionally at work and helps defuse situations and steer a conversation to something more positive.
Talk yourself into confidence
Your inner dialogue can be a factor in confidence. Try to notice if you are criticizing yourself, and try to replace negative thoughts with positive ones that help you feel better about a situation.
You can show respect by waiting for your turn to speak with others. Of course, rambling and filler words don’t help, so try to speak clearly and concisely. If you notice your thoughts turning negative, replace them. For example, instead of “I am bad at this”, say “I am getting better”.
Assess Your Social Circle
You may not even realize it, but the people around you can be an overwhelming source of negativity that destroys your confidence. Is your best friend only nice to you when there’s no one else there? Are you always the butt of the joke? Are you left out of group plans? If you answered yes to any of these, they aren’t your friend, and you need to reassess who you associate with. These are toxic people who cause negativity in life that destroys confidence.
Accept You are Getting Older
Okay, so maybe you don’t want to hear it, but you are getting older! While there are some actions you can take cosmetically and stay healthy, you can’t beat time. So why get down about it? No one in the world can reverse the changes that a lifetime can make. Accepting that you are getting older and things are changing allows you to own and embrace the course of your life. This can be an eye-opening turning point in the life of any man feeling the pinch.
Challenging Confidence Boosters for Men
A 2025 meta-analysis by J. Reese McLain and colleagues at the University of Oklahoma found that 90% of people with anxiety disorders benefit from “adventure therapy.” This involves stepping outside of your comfort zone and embracing something new and challenging:
- Getting out of your comfort zone helps you overcome the fear of failure.
- You will discover new strengths, skills, and traits you didn’t know you had.
- New experiences can lead to significant life changes and exciting opportunities.
Create a Purpose in Life
A directionless man is dangerous to himself and others. Maybe you feel you have not lived up to your potential, and now you might be past it. These kinds of feelings cause resentment and lead to issues such as drinking too much. But guess what, you are still young, even in your late 30s! There’s nothing stopping you from going after what you want from life. Even if it feels silly, sit down and write your goals, then work out the steps you must take to achieve them one by one.
Summary
Owning your style and look can be one of the most powerful confidence boosters for men getting older. Mindfulness communication can be a Godsend at work and in your personal life. Further to life, it also helps to assess where you are and what you want, and create goals.